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Welcome my name is Sherri. I am a follower of Jesus. I have been blessed to be the wife to my best friend Markiel. I am a mother to my tween son Amari and my preschool daughter Sanai. By God's grace I have found true joy in serving my family in our home. Even amongst all the everyday craziness I know this where God has called me to be. I learn something new everyday. I also recently became a part time bible teacher at my daughter's preschool. So I have the best of both worlds.

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

5 Ways To Uplift Your Husband



February is the month of love and with Valentine’s Day right around the corner we begin to think of ways to show our love to our husbands. 

We can easily give him a gift that expresses our love.  We can find just the right gift that we know would be perfect.  We can even picture the look on his face when he opens that perfect gift, and we become filled with excitement.  

Exchanging gifts with our husbands and exchanging tokens of our affection are fine, but they are just one small way that we can show our love.  This is just a part of how we can bring love and joy to the man we love.  

I have learned in my four years of marriage that my actions towards my husband were very important.  I have the ability to change the whole situation just based on how I speak and act, or maybe I should say react, towards my husband. 

Once I learned this lesson, I also began to realize that by my actions and words I had the ability to either discourage and bring down my husband or encourage and uplift him.  The choice was mine.  

So without a doubt I chose to uplift him.  As his wife I know that God has put a calling on  my life to be his partner and always encourage and uplift him. Think about it. Husbands have a lot of pressures and responsibilities on their shoulders and home should be the one place they know they can get the encouragement that they need.  Plus if we don’t do it who else will?

Now trust me this is not always an easy thing to do, especially when life get’s the best of me, but all it takes is a conscious effort on my part. 

I know the results are definitely worth it, and my husband is more than worth it. 


An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-12


5 Ways To Uplift Your Husband

1. Make him a priority-After God we are called to put him first. That even means before the children, which as mothers sometimes we forget to do. 

2. Laugh at his jokes-This is a way to show him that he is important. It reminds him that he has a great sense of humor, and that you love it. 

3. Compliment him-On any and everything. The more you do this the better. Even if it is on the simplest or smallest thing. Ex: " You know I was thinking about it, and I really like how you always take the garbage out before it gets too full. That is really helpful."(of course only say this if he is actually doing it, otherwise it could come across as being sarcastic.) 
We have to remember to compliment and praise our husbands for doing the everyday little things as well, it can often be taken for granted. 

4. Flirt-Didn't we do this when we first met? So why not do it now? Let's remind our husbands why they fell in love in the first place. Don't let the everyday business get in the way. Even if this is not an area you are strong in there are millions of ways you can show your hubby some affection that would be comfortable to you. Sometimes you just need to get creative and think outside the box for the ideas, and if worst comes to worst you can always just Google it.

5. Respect him-This is SO important to husbands. They want to feel that you have their backs. This is also a way they feel they can trust you. Your husband wants to know when he makes a decision you will support it, and you won't go and bad mouth him to your girlfriends. We can show our husbands respect in all that we do and say, and this is the main way he will feel your love.

These are just a few of many ways you can uplift your husband. I'm sure you could add more to the list. 

What are some ways you uplift your husband?


Be Blessed!









70 comments:

  1. This is such a sweet post! You read a lot about how men need to step up for valentines day for women however we should all be appreciating each other everyday.

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    1. EstheticGoddess Thank you for taking the time to visit my blog. There is definitely too much pressure on men for Valentine's Day. I have to admit I used to put so much emphasis on the gift and making things special. My hubby was always great with this but now I realize that true love comes from God not gifts. I don't need to put all that pressure on my poor hubby. I'm glad we were able to connect. ~Sherri

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    2. Life is so much simpler when we let go of these things and just appreciate the little things and count our blessings. Very glad I found your blog.

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  2. Wonderful post! I am really working on making sure my husband knows how much I appreciate all he does for our family. It is too easy to let those things go unsaid and unappreciated. =) #SITS

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    1. Hi Sarah we can definitely get caught up in the everyday business and forget to appreciate the little things. Plus I realized the more I began to purposely appreciate my hubby more, the more I fell in love with how good he really is. Thanks for visiting my blog. I'm glad we were able to connect. ~Sherri

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  3. great blog! so glad i found you. #SITSBlogging

    www.modernsuburbanites.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Rhiannon I appreciate you visiting & your comment. I'm glad I had a chance to check out your blog as well. From one fashionista to another I love your style! ~Sherri

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  4. Great suggestions!! I definitely think that doing special things for him that make his life easier or less stressful also is a great way to uplift him. Like making his favorite dinner when you know it's been a hard day at work.

    #SITSblogging

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    1. Hi Sara I agree that acts of kindness are so important, especially for those hubbies that have that as their love language. Thanks for visiting! ~Sherri

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  5. When we get busy it is easy to get caught up with to-do lists and forget what is most important. All of these items are really just acknowledging our spouse and letting him know we care.

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    1. Hello Savvy WorkingGal you are so right. We don't always mean to do it but next thing you know days become months, and we have been so focused on our daily busyness that we forget to appreciate each other. Thanks for visiting, and I appreciate your comment. I will be sure to check out your blog. I'm glad we could connect. ~Sherri

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  6. That is a great list of ways and things to do for your spouse. I hope and pray he appreciates you and your efforts.
    Spatulas On Parade
    Dawn
    #SITSblogging

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    1. Hi Dawn Thanks for visiting! My hubby does appreciate my efforts. He is a good man and knows how to show his love. That's why It's so much more important for me to do my part. ~Sherri

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  7. Great suggestions, Sherri. I love what you say about home being the one place our husbands know they can get the encouragement they need. So true and something I need to remember more often!

    #SITSBlogging

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  8. Hi Shana thanks for visiting. All the things I mentioned are definitely lessons I had to learn and I still continually work on in my marriage. I think that is the important part that we acknowledge it and then work towards being better. Every little step is further along than we were, and it only helps to build a stronger relationship. I'm happy to have connected. ~Sherri

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  9. I support my husband by doing the things I know he loves and wants, even if I don't love and want to do them (like starting his car in the morning after clearing it of snow, and making him a hot breakfast when it's very cold and I just want to snuggle somewhere in a blanket). :)

    Your list is good, and very relevant.

    #SITSBlogging

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    1. Hello mail4rosey I also clean and warm up his car on cold snowy days. It's not always easy especially on those days when all I want to do is stay in my warm bed, but I know my hubby is blessed by it.
      I know our hubbies notice and appreciate the acts of kindness. Thanks for visiting and sharing your comment. ~Sherri

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  10. Wonderful suggestions, I wish more women would do these things for their husbands. I'm single but I have been putting these things into practice with the men in my life so that I will be ready when I meet my husband. Well, except for the flirting, I don't really flirt (unless he's gorgeous!) #SITSBlogging

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    1. Hi Roni that's awesome that you practice these behaviors now. You will be all ready when you become a wife. Thanks for taking the time to visit & comment. ~Sherri

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  11. This is such a wonderful post! These five things are so easy to overlook due to the busyness of family life. Thanks for the reminder :-)

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    1. Hi Suzanne Thanks for visiting my blog. I appreciate your comment. You are so right. I think that is the hardest part, making the time & not getting too busy. I'm glad we were able to connect. ~Sherri

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  12. You are so right with this list. It really does take work to make our marriages happy ones. You get out of it what you put in. I praise God for my 24 year marriage, but my husband and I have worked hard to make it this way.

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    1. Hi Sandy thanks for visiting & commenting. Congratulations to you & your hubby for working through 24 years of marriage. I love hearing the testimonies of couples who have many years under their belts. Would you be interested in sharing your story or offering some marriage tips that I could feature on my blog? I'm sure you have great advice you could share. ~Sherri

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  13. Yes! It is so important to talk each other up! Husbands constantly need the love and affirmation from us! Great list! Stopping by from #SITS

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    1. Hi Serena thanks for taking the time to visit & comment. I think we all need that love & affirmation from each other. I'm glad to have connected. ~Sherri

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  14. This is such a great post. I have been studying being a "biblically submissive" wife. Respecting and allowing your husband to be a spiritual leader of the household is so important. That truly makes husbands feel loved!! Biblical submission is a controversial topic to discuss, but as I have studied, I have really begun to understand it and act upon it. It has TRANSFORMED our marriage. It's amazing. There is a really great book called Love and Respect. My husband and I are currently doing the study guide with the book. I highly recommend it! Great post!

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    1. Hi Stephanie that is great that you are studying the biblical definition of a wife. I have to give you credit because a lot of wives don't take the time or effort to do this. You are right it is SO important. I have had the chance to read Love & Respect with my hubby. It was the book we went through for our pre-marital counseling. Thanks for the suggestion.~Sherri

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  15. Great tips and I agree with all of them. Marriage takes works and you have to be willing to put in the effort. I know for me, I have had to work on making my husband more of a priority.

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    1. Hi K. Elizabeth I know what you mean about working to make your hubby a priority. It's something I focus on daily. I realized that sometimes it just takes the little things to make a difference. Thanks for stopping by & commenting. ~Sherri

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  16. I've found that when my husband and I do these types of things for one another, our relationship just works better. When one or the other of us forgets to compliment one another or appreciate the small things we each do, we tend to fuss more. It really is the little things that keep a marriage/ relationship going day after day!

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    1. Hi Natalie you are right things are just so much better when we both are intentional in our actions. Though it seems like many times though we can quickly slip back into the everyday business and forget to do all the things that are so important. Thanks for visiting. I appreciate your comment. ~Sherri

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  17. Listen to what he is saying really well...(Sometimes I just get so distracted with the children -I have to stop and just look and listen). Also, cooking a nice breakfast or dinner that I know he will love always seems to relax him and it makes a difference.

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    1. Hello Meeghan thanks for stopping by. Hubbies always love a good meal, at the right time it could be just what they need. I appreciate your comment. I hope you come back again. ~Sherri

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  18. Excellent advice, whether you are newlywed or married 20+ years. The one thing that I have found in those 20+ years, is to ask him about his job. Whether I understand the technical jargon or not, it helps him to unwind and get the stress off his chest, if he can just talk about it.

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    1. Hi Think Bell that's great that your hubby is willing to talk to you about work. I try to do this as well but often his job is the last thing he wants to talk about. Lol! Congratulations on your 20+ years of marriage! I am actually starting a new series that features wives that have been married 10+ years. I think that is an accomplishment to be celebrated. If you are interested in being featured please contact me at godlifehappywife@gmail.com. Thanks for visiting & commenting. ~Sherri

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  19. This was just the article that I needed to read this morning. As a stay at home, homeschooling mom, I tend to spend most if not all of my time focused on the kids. Your post really made me stop and think about how I need to really be giving my husband more attention. His birthday is this weekend. I'm really going to try to make it special for him, to show him that even though I'm so busy with the kids, I still love and think the world of him.

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    1. Hi Angie I thank God that you were blessed from this post. I know it can be hard to balance all of our responsibilities a s wives/moms, but once we stop and recognize that we need to do something different it can become much easier to do. Of course we need to completely depend on God to help lead us.
      We have to start somewhere. I hope your hubby had a great birthday. I pray that you continue to uplift your husband in a way that blesses your marriage. Please stop by again. ~Sherri

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  20. Great post! I try to remember how hard my husband works to make sure we have everything we need and to lighten up sometimes when things don't go the way I expect them to.

    -Rebecca @ Love at First Book

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    1. Hello Rebecca I try to remember the same thing. God has really helped me to focus on the positive rather than the negative. The great thing is the more I do this the more I fallen in love with how good of a man I have. I'm glad you stopped by and commented. Please visit again. ~Sherri

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  21. There was an interesting article I read a few years ago, and it was saying how it's harder for guys to come by compliments than women. Women uplift each other in conversations constantly (among friends at least), but guys rarely do this for each other (although of course there are exceptions to every rule, and there are exceptional men out there who don't condemn themselves to the absurd social "rules" currently in place). So the point they made in the article was that a husband being criticized by his wife may actually hurt him more than if a wife were criticized by her husband. I think it really depends on the individuals in question, but it was an interesting thing I hadn't thought of before. And it's true, you don't see guys running around complimenting and supporting each other all the time in the same way that "gal pals" do. I would add to this list to not take your spouse for granted. It seems so many spouses get so used to each other, that they don't treat each other as kindly as they once did, and definitely forget to do the small things like flirt, which really make all the difference. I think the tips you mentioned here could equally apply to things husbands should also keep in mind about their wives! After all, it takes two to make it work!

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  22. A good reminder to continue to nurture our relationships throughout marriage. My best friend and I discussed this some time ago, how we need to verbally communicate our appreciation to our hubbies, not just assume they know how we feel. And we as women and wives are very much the same. It is a simple thing to express our love and appreciation- even for something that seems trivial- but the act of doing so can have a valuable effect, helping to strengthen the relationship. While all the little tasks husbands and wives do on a daily basis may not seem important, overall they are what maintain and nurture a family; a very important goal indeed.

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  23. Wonderful advice! My husband's love language is Acts of Service, so I try to specifically do something every day to serve him. I also compliment him and tell him I'm proud of him. (my love language is words of affirmation, so I tend to express my love for him that way.)

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  24. Great post and reminder! Have you read The Husband Project? It's amazing book on loving and blessing your husband for 21 days. It's a great resource and compliments these ideas so well. I really appreciate you sharing this to remind us all that our hubs are super important and the leaders of our household. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  25. What a beautiful post, Sherri. Great advise and also can be used in other relationships. Building up and not tearing down is so important in any relationship.

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  26. Great list - I agree it is so easy to forget to compliment and appreciate our husbands day to day - it's important to remember to do so to keep the relationship strong - simple things that make a big difference.

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  27. What a great post and reminder! Sometimes I get so caught up in my daily routine/life, that I forget to show my affection to my husband. Making a goal to change that - starting today!
    -Stacey
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  28. Sherri, I just absolutely loved it!!! And I agree with everything that you shared, sometimes the simplest things are the hardest to remember and the easiest to underestimate. I was just wondering...do you have a scripture reference for putting our husbands before our kids? I've heard "God first, others second, self third" - which I'm trying to implement on a daily basis, but not the hubs before chubs...

    Ultimately, though, I just have to say thanks a second time, I really do love my husband, but we've all been misinformed that marriage shouldn't involve effort, and that is just so wrong, but this helps me focus on the best ways to love him on a daily basis with very doable things - and no excuses not to do them - doesn't take a lot of time or money, just thoughtfulness.

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  29. Great suggestions. I have to remind myself to flirt. I didn't really do it naturally even when we were dating, and I definitely don't do it naturally now. But he loves it when I try! Stopping by from Blogelina Commentathon

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  30. Excellent set of tips! You can never have enough tips on how to be a better wife and have a better marriage!

    Thanks for linking up at Gingham & Roses!
    Hope to see you back next week!

    Tenns @ New Mama Diaries

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  31. Great post & good reminders! It's important to show your husband how much you love him. Great tips!

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  32. Good post. I think too often today with all of our busy lifestyles, we don't think of things like this. I have seen so many times where wives do just the opposite of this and actually degrade their husbands. Very sad to see.

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  33. Excellent post! My husband and I have been married for 14 years. I try to tell him frequently how much I appreciate how hard he works. And he knows I have his back just like I know he has mine :)

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  34. I love this post! It's so easy in the busy rush of life to let important things fall by the wayside. It's so easy to just assume that our husbands know how we feel and/or what we think of them. Thank you for these great reminders. I know I needed them ... and I'm going to start putting them back into practice right away. Thank you! :D

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  35. Thanks for the reminders. I also need to pray for my husband everyday as he works so hard teaching and on his PhD.

    Faith

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  36. Great post. It is so easy to get caught up in the drudgery of day to day that you forget your spouse's needs. I also pray for my husband each day and thank him for his hard work.

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  37. Some awesome reminders here for me after being married for 3 years - thank you for sharing!

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  38. Sherri, thank you so much for the great reminders. I especially think that complimenting is most definitely the way to go.
    Great post for the link up.

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  39. I do many of these things, too! I also thank him for things to show that I'm thankful.

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  40. You are certainly right about how we speak, act and react directly affecting our marital relationship. A simple tone of voice or misunderstood voice inflection can ignite a misunderstanding. I do believe that husbands require more uplifting than wives do, depending on personal circumstances. There are seasons in life when the wife is the one who may need more moral support. You have excellent suggestions for uplifting our husbands. I have found all of these to be positive in my own marriage.

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  41. I would definitely say that it is both partners' responsibilities to uplift each other. When one person isn't doing their job in supporting the other, the marriage definitely suffers.

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    1. I agree. We can be supportive, but it's very difficult if the other person doesn't respond or shuts you out.

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  42. I love and believe in God and I believe that I should try the 31 days of sharing God's love.

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  43. This is so nice! Thanks for sharing! I'm not married yet, but between my mom's advice and the advice I get from my married friends and posts like these...I think I'll be well on my way when I'm ready! :-)

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  44. I am not married yet but its always nice to see tips from other women, especially Christian women, when it comes to their families. It is easy to see what not to do when we look at the world but its not so easy to see what we should do, especially if we aren't fluent in the Bible quite yet!

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  45. Thanks for sharing I have been married for 23 years and these are easy to forget.

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  46. Serve him. My husband's love language is service so when I do that he really appreciates it. Great post.

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  47. I need to make sure to watch these and add them to my daily 'to do' list in order to elevate my husband.
    Thank you for the reminder.

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  48. I have been making more of an effort lately to uplift my husband. It is easy to take your spouse and all they do for granted. My husband is my rock and he should be shown that consistently. Thanks for sharing your tips.

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