God Life Happy Wife: 10+ Wives Club

When God allows you to find the one person you will spend the rest
of your life with that is truly a blessing.

Marriage is a gift that God gives to us, and
through it we must glorify Him.

I am always very impressed and inspired when I hear

of marriages that are still going strong after 10 years or more.

I feel that must be honored, displayed, and celebrated!

Especially these days when it is such an exclusive thing,

but it is definitely a honor once you get there

Let's celebrate the ladies of the 10+ Wives Club.

Today we are celebrating Sandy.
Sandy keeps herself busy with her two blogs
Sandy's P.O.V. and Uncompromising.
The one thing that she always makes time for is her husband Scott.

I got a chance to interview Sandy about her marriage
and here is what she shared.

1. How long have you been married?

Scott and I have been married just over 24 years. We are celebrating our 25^th anniversary this coming December.

2. How did you both meet?

We met at church. He came to our church on Easter morning in 1989 and sat at the end of the row where my parents and I sat. We said hi the first week while passing the peace. The second week I took care with what I was going to wear, hoping that he’d return. Sure enough, he sat in the same seat hoping I would be there. I invited him back that night for the evening service and then to dinner with my family after. He came to the evening service, but had to work and couldn’t come to dinner. He asked me to go out the following weekend. We were engaged 5 weeks later and married in December of the same year.

3. How many children/grandchildren do you have?

We have one son, Tim, who is going to be 20 this April. He is going to school to be an auto mechanic and still living at home. We don’t have any grandchildren yet.

4. What are your 2 favorite qualities about your hubby?

I love that my husband loves me in spite of all of my flaws. I have so many flaws and I’m amazed that he isn’t more frustrated with me. I love that he not only tells me how much he loves me, but he shows me as well. He’s brought me flowers for no reason, cards with lovely words that he wrote, and he makes me still feel beautiful. I’m so blessed to be married to such a wonderful man.

5. What do you and your hubby do for fun?

We have fun doing most anything, but we like taking road trips, even if it’s only for a couple of hours. We are getting ready to take a three week road trip from San Diego, CA to Portland, OR. We are very organized people and we haven’t made even one reservation for a hotel or scheduled out our trip. This is so out of the ordinary for us. It’s truly going to be an adventure.

We attend theology school together in preparation for our life after our jobs. We’re in our fourth year and we will be getting our Bachelor’s Degrees in November. The Lord hasn’t revealed what His plan is for our future yet, but we know we need to be preparing for our future now.

6. What is some advice that you would give to a newly married couple?

All those lovey-dovey feelings are going to fade. No relationship based on emotions or feelings will be a strong one. If you want to have a forever marriage then you need to make friends with your spouse so you can get through the hard times together. Your husband needs to be the one person that you can’t live without. To help you build your relationship, have a date night. You need to spend time together where the focus is only on you two and your relationship. We used to really try not to talk about our son when we were having our date night. Continue to court each other.

You can never tell your spouse that you love him too much. We say, “I love you”, when we hang up from each other on the phone, when we’re saying good-bye, and just because. This is something that we’ve instilled in our son as well. My mother told me when I was younger that you never know when the last time you’ll speak to someone you love, so you need to tell them that you love them.

Show appreciation for your spouse. My husband does things like wash dishes before he goes to work, so that they’re not waiting for me when I come home. He’ll fold laundry and put it away. I appreciate what he does, so I don’t have to do it, and I tell him that.

You can’t change someone, so if you marry your husband thinking that you can change him, you will be sorely disappointed. There are many things that you can overlook, but if he has a habit that you can’t live with such as alcoholism, drug use, or he abuses you, don’t marry him thinking you can change or fix him.

7. What would you say is the key to your lasting marriage?

We laugh a lot. We spend most of our time together. It’s not because we have to be with one another, it’s because Scott is the one person that I want to be with more than anyone. We have friends, but our friends take a backseat to each other. I wouldn’t dream of taking a trip with my girlfriends, because I would keep thinking about how much I’d enjoy whatever we were doing with Scott.

8. What would be the one thing you would want others to remember about your marriage?

I would want people to remember that Scott and I had a good, strong marriage. We come in contact with people who say that they can see that we love each other by our interactions with one another. They see that we laugh a lot, but that we love a lot as well. I want our marriage to be an example for other marriages.