How To Manage Being A Blogger And A Wife

Being a blogger can be a huge commitment in your life.  That is why it is so important to find that proper balance between blogging and the other commitments in your life.

Recently God had to teach me a valuable lesson in how to manage being a blogger and a wife.  For me I usually have to learn things the hard way, so let my lesson be to your benefit.

Considering that my blog is named God Life Happy Wife and I mostly focus on writing about marriage, you would think that I have this whole blogging and marriage thing under control right? Wrong!

I have never been a person that followed a schedule. I barely even like to use a to-do list. That worked for me in the past but once I started blogging I quickly realized that I needed to get organized, 

or I would go crazy. 

In the beginning I told myself and my hubby that I was going to stick to this strict schedule.  I had it all planned out in my mind of how I was going to balance blogging, being a stay-at-home mom, and being a wife.

After only a month I was so excited and completely committed to my blog.  It was almost all I was ever doing.  I was taking care of my family and the household duties of course, but any bit of down time and guess what I was doing?  Blogging, checking my social media, and commenting to others blogs.  

Come on my fellow bloggers, you know what I mean, it's the life of a blogger.  Plus I was trying to build up my blog. That's what I kept telling myself and my hubby, especially when he would come home from work and find me peeking up from my laptop saying, 

"Hi Honey!" 

It took me a little while and a big wake up call from God to realize something was wrong with that picture.  So it was time for me to prioritize my commitments. 

Here is what I came up with:

-I do love my blog and I am completely committed to it, but I love    
 my family more. In order to honor my family with my blog I have 
 to always put their needs first. 
  
-If I want to grow my blog and treat it as my business, I have to be 
 professional by separating my blogging time from my family time. 
 I must draw the line and stick to it. It will benefit both sides.

-I have to learn to take advantage of all the resources out there that 
 make blogging easier and quicker. These days there's an app for 
 everything and using them would only make my life much easier.  
 For example I can preschedule posts and use websites like 
 Hootsuite.com to manage my social media. 

Now this is my new plan and so far so good.  By the way I decided to not blog after my hubby comes home from work anymore.  
We have much more quality time together and we are both happier about that. 


Be Blessed!

What Wives Wear:Menswear Inspired

This weeks look is an outfit that I 

decided to randomly throw together.

These are all pieces I've worn separately in 
other outfits but never thought to putting together.

The idea of experimenting with your wardrobe,

and coming up with new looks is something 

that I greatly recommend. 

It is so much fun and honestly it is a big 

wardrobe saver when you may be working with a 

limited budget or even a limited wardrobe.

Mixing and matching pieces that you already own 

allows you to create new outfits and instantly 
multiply your wardrobe. All you need to do
 is get a little creative.

This is a look that I wore to my sister's 

birthday brunch at my mom's house. 

It was going to be just close family so I didn't need 

to be too dressy, but I was slowly recovering from 

a cold that had me in bed the whole day before.

I just wanted to look better so I could feel better.

It all began with this thrifted vest and then 

I built up my look from there.

Outfit:

Black pinstripe vest(thrifted)White shirt(Sears)

Skinny jeans(Old Navy)Wine suede oxfords(Target)

Accessories:

Black & Grey tie-dyed scarf(gifted by Hubby)

Glasses(Vince Camuto) Silver leaf necklace(Forever 21)

Silver hoop earrings(thrifted)

This vest I find sometimes hard to wear, 

because it doesn't just go with anything.

Since the weather was nice and the snow was beginning 

to melt, I decided I could finally start wearing my favorite 

suede wine colored oxfords.

I knew that this combination was going to 

make the perfect menswear inspired look.

I can't leave home without my accessories: silver hoops, 

a silver leaf pendant necklace, and my favorite tie-dye scarf.

Check out how I wore this scarf for my 

Valentine's Day Look

So don't be afraid to get style inspiration from

popular men's looks. You can always add

a feminine touch with the right makeup and accessories.

Be Blessed!

Check back next week for another great look.

For any wives who would like to be featured on

What Wives Wear

Please contact me at 

godlifehappywife@gmail.com

for more details.

Click Chicks Challenge:Gold

It's time for my favorite photography 
challenge of the week. 

Welcome to this weeks edition of... 

Click Chicks Photo Challenge

Hosted by Mrs.Tee@MrsTeeLoveLifeLaughter.com,

Krystal@krystalskitsch.com, and

Lesha@TheLovelyPhotog.com.

When it comes to wearing jewelry I love 
adding unique accessories to compliment my look.

I must say I have a pretty good size 
collection to work with. 

There is one necklace that I love,
and I have owned it for a while. 
It always seems to work it's way into my
look for the day.

I knew it was perfect object for this weeks
prompt of... GOLD.

This necklace is important to me 
because it's not only an accessory
but it represent so much more. 

It is a visual symbol of my faith.
 It also is a constant reminder of the 
great love that Jesus has for me. 

That is something that I never want to forget.

Here is an image that I found on Facebook today that explains 

exactly why this cross means so much to me.

Black Marriage Day Event 2014

I was excited when I saw an opportunity 

for my hubby and I to be a part of a photo album 

celebrating black marriages. 

Any time there is a chance to celebrate my 

love and marriage, then I'm all in. 

God has definitely blessed me to be married to 

a wonderful man and I don't take any of it for granted.

When I saw the website Love.Work.Repeat were 

accepting couples photos to put together the 

Black Marriage Day Photo Album Of 2014, 

I quickly sent one in.

Once I saw the album all put together with 

many of the beautiful black couples, I began to realize 

that my husband and I were a part of something much deeper.

It wasn't simply about me being able to celebrate my marriage

but it is also about being part of a community of 

happily married black couples that are blessed and proud.

That is something that truly needs to be celebrated and displayed!

The best part was I got a chance to share the album with 
my 11 year old son and he enjoyed it.  
He even said, "One day that will be me and my wife." 
That is exactly the type of legacy of love
I want to leave for my children.

I'm thankful to the ladies at Love.Work.Repeat for 

taking their time to put it all together. 

Be Blessed!

Click the link below to enjoy the many wonderful couples.

*Don't miss out on me & my hubby's anniversary photo at 5:36.

Black Marriage Day Photo Album 2014

What Wives Wear:Sweater Weather

Hello wives welcome back to 

What Wives Wear 

I have really enjoyed being able to share with you 

different looks and styles that can 

inspire your own personal wardrobe.

I have been getting inspiration as well 

as I see the outfits of other wives  
and the looks they are sharing.

Today I am bringing you another 
look from a blogger friend of mine.

Tiffany aka Mrs.Tee she blogs at 

Mrsteelovelifelaughter

Tiffany is no stranger to fashion. 

She often does outfit-of-the-day posts 
on Instagram, as well as her blog posts and vlog series

"ACCESSorizing Your Inner Fashionista 

One Piece At A Time."

I'm sure like most of us Tiffany has been dressing for 

dare I say...this "Winter Wonderland" weather 
we have been experiencing.

I know many us are just looking forward to the spring

but until then get your winter fashionista on.

I honestly like winter fashion because I usually 

stick to my staples which consist of

sweaters, scarves, leggings, and boots.

I love me some boots! 

This combo can be the perfect winter outfit 

because it serves it purpose.

It's easy to put together, stylish, and keeps you warm.

Wives please don't forget your accessories.

Check out Tiffany's version of this look.

American Eagle Jeggings (Black)

American Eagle Sweater (Khaki)

Black Rider Boots

Black Infinity Scarf (Walmart)

So don't let this cold, snowy weather discourage 
you from experimenting with your style. 
You can still stay warm, be comfy, and look good!

Don't worry wives spring will be here soon enough. 

Be Blessed!

Check back next week for another great look.

For any wives who would like to be featured on

What Wives Wear

Please contact me at 

godlifehappywife@gmail.com

for more details.

10+ Wives Club:Sandy

When God allows you to find the one person you will spend the rest 
of your life with that is truly a blessing. 

Marriage is a gift that God gives to us, and 
through it we must glorify Him. 

I am always very impressed and inspired when I hear

 of marriages that are still going strong after 10 years or more. 

I feel that must be honored, displayed, and celebrated!

Especially these days when it is such an exclusive thing, 

but it is definitely a honor once you get there

Let's celebrate the ladies of the 10+ Wives Club.

Today we are celebrating Sandy.
Sandy keeps herself busy with her two blogs
Sandy's P.O.V. and Uncompromising.
The one thing that she always makes time for is her husband Scott.

I got a chance to interview Sandy about her marriage 
and here is what she shared.

1. How long have you been married?

Scott and I have been married just over 24 years.  We are celebrating our 25^th anniversary this coming December.

2. How did you both meet? 

We met at church.  He came to our church on Easter morning in 1989 and sat at the end of the row where my parents and I sat.  We said hi the first week while passing the peace.  The second week I took care with what I was going to wear, hoping that he’d return.  Sure enough, he sat in the same seat hoping I would be there.  I invited him back that night for the evening service and then to dinner with my family after.  He came to the evening service, but had to work and couldn’t come to dinner.  He asked me to go out the following weekend.  We were engaged 5 weeks later and married in December of the same year.

3. How many children/grandchildren do you have?

We have one son, Tim, who is going to be 20 this April.  He is going to school to be an auto mechanic and still living at home.  We don’t have any grandchildren yet.

4. What are your 2 favorite qualities about your hubby?

I love that my husband loves me in spite of all of my flaws.  I have so many flaws and I’m amazed that he isn’t more frustrated with me.  I love that he not only tells me how much he loves me, but he shows me as well.  He’s brought me flowers for no reason, cards with lovely words that he wrote, and he makes me still feel beautiful.  I’m so blessed to be married to such a wonderful man.  

5. What do you and your hubby do for fun?

We have fun doing most anything, but we like taking road trips, even if it’s only for a couple of hours.  We are getting ready to take a three week road trip from San Diego, CA to Portland, OR.  We are very organized people and we haven’t made even one reservation for a hotel or scheduled out our trip.  This is so out of the ordinary for us.  It’s truly going to be an adventure.

We attend theology school together in preparation for our life after our jobs.  We’re in our fourth year and we will be getting our Bachelor’s Degrees in November.  The Lord hasn’t revealed what His plan is for our future yet, but we know we need to be preparing for our future now.  

6. What is some advice that you would give to a newly married couple?

All those lovey-dovey feelings are going to fade.  No relationship based on emotions or feelings will be a strong one.  If you want to have a forever marriage then you need to make friends with your spouse so you can get through the hard times together.  Your husband needs to be the one person that you can’t live without.  To help you build your relationship, have a date night.  You need to spend time together where the focus is only on you two and your relationship.  We used to really try not to talk about our son when we were having our date night.  Continue to court each other.  

You can never tell your spouse that you love him too much.  We say, “I love you”, when we hang up from each other on the phone, when we’re saying good-bye, and just because.  This is something that we’ve instilled in our son as well.  My mother told me when I was younger that you never know when the last time you’ll speak to someone you love, so you need to tell them that you love them.  

Show appreciation for your spouse.  My husband does things like wash dishes before he goes to work, so that they’re not waiting for me when I come home.  He’ll fold laundry and put it away.  I appreciate what he does, so I don’t have to do it, and I tell him that.

You can’t change someone, so if you marry your husband thinking that you can change him, you will be sorely disappointed.  There are many things that you can overlook, but if he has a habit that you can’t live with such as alcoholism, drug use, or he abuses you, don’t marry him thinking you can change or fix him.  

7. What would you say is the key to your lasting marriage?

We laugh a lot.  We spend most of our time together.  It’s not because we have to be with one another, it’s because Scott is the one person that I want to be with more than anyone.  We have friends, but our friends take a backseat to each other.  I wouldn’t dream of taking a trip with my girlfriends, because I would keep thinking about how much I’d enjoy whatever we were doing with Scott.  

8. What would be the one thing you would want others to remember about your marriage?

I would want people to remember that Scott and I had a good, strong marriage.  We come in contact with people who say that they can see that we love each other by our interactions with one another.  They see that we laugh a lot, but that we love a lot as well.  I want our marriage to be an example for other marriages.  

I really enjoyed getting to know Sandy 

and hearing about her marriage.

I have definitely learned some important 

marriage tips that I will keep in mind.

Let's all remember to celebrate with Sandy & Scott 

in December when they celebrate their 25th anniversary!

I just wanted to say thank you to Sandy & Scott 

for sharing their story and 

being a part of the 10+ Wives Club.

Be Blessed!

You can also visit Sandy at her websites:

Uncompromising:  

http://sandysandmeyer.wordpress.com

Sandy’s P.O.V.:  

http://sandyspov.wordpress.com

Twitter:  
https://www.twitter.com/sandysandmeyer

Google+:  
https://plus.google.com/+SandySandmeyer/

Uncompromising G+:  
https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/113520710235890855498/113520710235890855498

Sandy’s P.O.V. G+:  

https://plus.google.com/u/0/b/100246234779481641748/100246234779481641748/

Introducing The 10+ Wives Club

The one thing that always impresses me is when I hear about 

or meet a couple who has been married for many years. 

Not only am I impressed but It motivates me for my own marriage.

I feel wives that have been married for ten years of more 
should be celebrated, especially in this generation 
when life long marriages are not the norm.

 I wanted to create an opportunity to do just that. 

Being a wife that has been married for ten years of more is 

exclusive like being in a club, but once you get in it is an honor. 

10+ Wives Club will feature wives and interview 
them about their long lasting marriages. 
It will be a place for other wives to hear their stories
and learn from their experiences, myself included.

I  have been married for four years, and I know 
of the importance of my husband and I being around 
couples that have gotten to a place that we desire to be in. 

We are able to learn and share from their experiences.

The one couple that I always admired for having a 
strong marriage were my grandparents.

They were married for sixty- three years, 
and left a true legacy of love.
Read more of their story here.

10+ Wives Club will be featured on the first 
and third Wednesdays of the month.

I am looking for all proud wives that have been married 
for ten years or more to share their stories with me.

If you are interested in this opportunity please 
leave a comment below or you can 
contact me at godlifehappywife@gmail.com

Come back on Wednesday March 5th for the 
first interview with Sandy. 

Be Blessed!